Full Moon Funeral
This all sounded good to them. They wanted to be the ones to care for their mom. They knew that Laura's home was the right place for Sharon to remain with her own things and the people who knew and loved her surrounding her. After Sharon died, Laura and Beth could decide if there was anyone else they wanted to visit and if they wanted to have a gathering or ceremony.
They already knew that Sharon wanted to be cremated. I explained that I would refer them to a funeral director who would help with a home funeral, who would facilitate the transportation to the crematory. We arranged to get together again in a week to go over more details.
However, three days later, Laura called me at 10 p.m. to say that her mother had stopped breathing. "We had just gotten off the phone with Beth. Beth told mom she loved her, and mom opened her eyes for a moment. When I was getting ready to let the dog out, I heard a breath, and then I realized that I didn't hear any more. I turned and looked at her, waiting for it, but it didn't come."
"How are you doing?" I asked. "I'm OK, I guess. What should I do?" I replied, "You should call the hospice nurse. She'll want to come over. But other than that, there's nothing you have to do right now. Just be with your mom. Do you want me to come over?"